Take the time to find out about the disease. You can be much more sympathetic about the challenges your loved one faces when you know what is involved in diabetes and its management. For easy-to-read, informative fact sheets and brochures, call 800–860–8747; email ndic@info.niddk.nih.gov or visit diabetes.niddk.nih.gov; or write the National Diabetes Information Clearinghouse at 1 Information Way, Bethesda, MD 20892–3560.

Don't assume you know what help he or she needs. Ask, "What can I do to help you with your diabetes?" or "What do I do that makes it harder for you to manage your diabetes?" Then, together, figure out solutions.

People with diabetes generally follow the same rules for healthy eating that apply to everyone, so you can prepare virtually the same meal for the entire family. If you have trouble sticking with a recommended diabetes diet, talk with a diabetes educator or nutritionist for additional suggestions and support.

Walk, jog, swim or do whatever activity has been okayed by your loved one's health-care team. Almost everyone—with or without diabetes—should get 30 to 60 minutes of exercise most days.

A person may become short-tempered, sleepy or foggy-brained when glucose levels are high; they may be shaky, confused or unfocused when levels are low. When your loved one is cranky or in a bad mood, his or her blood sugar level may be too high or too low. Encourage them to check their glucose level and take steps to correct it. Many people can tell right away when they are losing control of their glucose levels; others don't feel symptoms at all, particularly when it comes to low levels. You can help by being ready to counter a low with the right kind of carbohydrates or sugars, or to encourage them to bring down a high with the correct dose of insulin.

People with diabetes can have a hard time sticking to their medication routine. Don't argue about it. Instead, create a monthly calendar that gives day-by-day timing of medications and glucose monitoring. Post it on the refrigerator door or a bulletin board.

Knowing you are on the same team, working toward the same goals, can make living with diabetes more manageable for your loved one with diabetes—and for you Diabetic Control Solution.